Stress Relief for High Achieving Women

Anxiety is a knot of both emotions and physiology," says Dr. Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and for many women, especially those high-achieving "all-together" ones, this generalized feeling of anxiety is so commonplace they often don't even recognize its existence.


“Anxiety is a knot of both emotions and physiology,” says Dr. Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and for many women, especially those high-achieving “all-together” ones, this generalized feeling of anxiety is so commonplace they often don’t even recognize its existence. While it is natural to feel a racing pulse or a quickening of breath in moments of danger or fear, it is not normal to experience these symptoms of anxiousness and upset the majority of the time. Writes Dr. Pick, “Too many of us never get to relax: our minds are perpetually on high alert with the accompanying physical response.”

Unfortunately, the physical danger to a woman whose body is on constant “high alert” can be both extensive and the damage cumulative. Dr. Pick warns women who experience chronic irrational fears or dread, chest pain, muscle tension/headaches, heart palpitations, insomnia, GI distress, tearfulness, depression, and/or overall jumpiness to seek out medical care for treatment, which according to Pick, must be dealt with from a variety of sides, both physical and emotional.
It is clear that our frenetic lifestyles contribute to this growing anxiety-related health problem.

Even those few who do recognize the need for regular, scheduled rest may approach it from a clearly capitalistic ideal. Author Lauren Winner writes in her book Mudhouse Sabbath about what she has observed is the capitalistic society’s justification for resting one day a week; to be conversely fit for more productivity during the other six days. Say what? That those women whose sole motivation in resting is to jumpstart the hamster wheel with increased gusto have missed the point entirely. Further, Winner points out that even though this precept may prove true (after resting one does have renewed physical energy), this whole “achievement-oriented” concept of resting is at odds with the overarching principle of a purposeful, regular retreat from the daily grind, which is more of an inner-renewal than anything else, and which naturally lends itself to healthy introspection and more reasonable life perspectives. From every angle, rest is truly curative if it is practiced with regularity and the proper end goal.

Practical Suggestions for Reducing Symptoms of Anxiety:

  • Understand the link between hormones, PMS, perimenopause, and menopause. Achieve hormonal balance by considering natural progesterone or bio-identical HRT with the help of a physician.
  • Practice good nutrition. Eat whole foods and stay clear of caffeine, sugar, and simple carbohydrates; “white foods” are a woman’s enemy.
  • Be physically active. Touted as the single best anxiety medication, women should engage in moderate daily exercise.
  • Get enough sleep. Set up a nightly routine for bedtime and stick to it. Women in general require 7-9 hours of sleep per night for better brain health.
  • Go outside for sun exposure. Take fifteen minutes a day (without sunscreen) to encourage the production of Vitamin D that helps stave off mood disorders such as SAD.
  • Take emotional inventory. Revisit current familial, work, and volunteer responsibilities, and then make adjustments as warranted.
  • Schedule in regular time for rest. Then give these slotted time segments the priority they deserve.

Michele Howe

Michele is the author of twelve books for women and has published over 1600 articles, reviews, and curriculum. Her single parenting titles include: Going It Alone and Still Going It Alone. Her newest release is, One Size Fits All: Making Healthy Choices, Stepping Into a Meaningful Life, a women’s health/inspirational devotional by Lighthouse of the Carolinas. Read more of Michele’s work at